“Who are you bitch, new lunch? Ima ruin you cunt”

We’ve reached a point in feminist discourse where the raw honesty of working class women who have been surrounded by “foul”, “vile”, “abusive” language our whole lives, as general chat, can’t speak in our own voices.

I know how to code switch. I don’t know a single working class woman who doesn’t. We have our home voice and we have our work voice. We all know how to enunciate yes sir, of course madam, let me get that for you. Is there a reason our sisters expect the same behaviour when these bitches ain’t even paying us?

Anti feminist slurs. Bitch. Twat. Even fuck off if directed at someone with a vagina. Fuck off is a special case though. It’s not abusive if a middle class woman is directing it at someone who has hurt her. She is angry, hurt and tone policing her shouldn’t even enter your head. It is only our pain that isn’t visible. Because pain from the daily grind of surviving patriarchy is only valid if you use the right words, in the right voice, to the right people.

If we’re in pain, yet furious and betrayed because we long ago learnt that working class women are only useful in feminism when we’re dead, as statistics, or more recently as dead honey traps well then our fuck off is abuse. So you know, bite your tongue. Respect your betters. Listen. Learn. Read. Read again if you haven’t understood that you’re thick yet. Know your place.

If you must say something and sound rough doing it for god sake can you make sure you’re speaking as a “survivor” or as an “exited woman” or someone “vulnerable”. You can be disabled and a victim of cruel cuts. Or a single mother who can demonstrate how government policy impoverishes women. But once you’ve been taken out of your box to prove the point get back into it without too much fuss. Remember feminist activism is for all women, and the proper feminists are working for the really vulnerable women like you so be fucking grateful would ya.

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3 thoughts on ““Who are you bitch, new lunch? Ima ruin you cunt”

  1. Maybe they expect the same respect from you that theyre giving you in not using sexist language to get one up on them. Women using sexism to gain hierarchy in a situation is no different really than a male doing so.

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